{"content":{"sharePage":{"page":0,"digests":[{"id":"71553306","dateCreated":"1421702160","smartDate":"Jan 19, 2015","userCreated":{"username":"TerriCooper","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/TerriCooper","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/pic\/1420660256\/TerriCooper-lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/lpsbookstudy2015.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/71553306"},"dateDigested":1532252521,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"Relationships","description":"Bruce Perry says that the most powerful rewards we can receive are the attention, approval and affection from people we love and respect. We can make real connections and create meaningful relationships with our students. Please share your thoughts regarding relationships, strategies for developing relationships, and\/or examples of meaningful relationships you have been able to develop with students. If you haven\u2019t seen this TED Talk by Rita Pierson, you need to. It\u2019s very powerful. http:\/\/www.ted.com\/talks\/rita_pierson_every_kid_needs_a_champion.html<\/a>
\nTerri Cooper","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[{"id":"82271448","body":"Building relationships is probably one of the most overlooked aspects of teaching. It is easy to say you will, but the reality of building a real, loving relationship with the most difficult or withdrawn students can be very challenging. Especially when a student is disruptive or noncompliant. Striving to find the good in a student is ongoing. An older teacher gave me some good advice. She said "just LOVE LOVE LOVE them" Once you decide you love them no matter what, some things are just easier to forgive and forget. I try to use humor and structure to put students at ease, and let them know my enthusiasm for learning also helps build a relationship. I don't nitpick and I let them know I care deeply and their future is important to me. I also try to be an ear, and listen to what they have to say.","dateCreated":"1432662154","smartDate":"May 26, 2015","userCreated":{"username":"barkera1","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/barkera1","imageUrl":"https:\/\/ssl.wikicdn.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"82273526","body":" Developing and maintaining relationships is imperative for helping students achieve socially and academically. Daily I tell my students that I care about them, and I want them to be successful in life. I allow them to share stories of home life and family life. I ask questions about family members, learn their names and how the students feel about those family members. During dismissal time, I try to pick one or two students to discuss life at home. I ask questions to let my students know that I am interested in them, their families, and their lives. I check in with my students and their new teachers to see how they are doing. When I see them out in public, I am sure to say hello and talk with them and their families.","dateCreated":"1432667294","smartDate":"May 26, 2015","userCreated":{"username":"dperez69","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/dperez69","imageUrl":"https:\/\/ssl.wikicdn.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"82274598","body":"Each year, as new students come in and familiar ones return, I greet each one with a genuine hell'o and\/or an affectionate hug. My students know that I genuinely care about them and want the very best for them. I take my time to build this relationship with students who are new to me as it takes time to build a lasting, trusting relationship. But once I do, it makes all the difference in the world. I treat all children with respect and do not humiliate them or use sarcasm with them. I treat them the way I would like to be treated. This in turn, demonstrates first hand how they are to treat each other and myself included. In some cases, I've had to do a little more to build this trust. I've gone to soccer games, birthday parties and even made a few home visits. I try to keep the same demeanor with every child so that they know I won't all of a sudden blow up in their faces. I let them know that they can come to me and I will listen to them. I will keep their confidences so as long as they are not in danger or being harmed in any way. Trust and respect is critical to good teaching. Like Rita Person said, "Children won't learn from someone they don't like." roopanid","dateCreated":"1432670990","smartDate":"May 26, 2015","userCreated":{"username":"Lps-sysop","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/Lps-sysop","imageUrl":"https:\/\/ssl.wikicdn.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"82274602","body":"I can't imagine my class without sharing stories, having celebrations, creating memories while we learn. Even making connections at home by sending pictures through a program called classroom dojo. Sending good letters home and giving my children nick names. They love Monday mornings when we share our weekend and make connections with each other. They love hearing stories about me and my kids. This all creates a family atmosphere where students feel free to learn and make mistakes. Moyer","dateCreated":"1432671011","smartDate":"May 26, 2015","userCreated":{"username":"Lps-sysop","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/Lps-sysop","imageUrl":"https:\/\/ssl.wikicdn.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"82274608","body":"I 100% agree. Children need to know that you love and respect them. I build that bond with them all year long. Allowing time for them to tell me about personal stories, allowing time for them to get to know me as a person (not just their teacher) is important. Sharing silly moments and laughter is key. Letting children know that you really care about what they are saying, not just shooing them off because you have to get to the next lesson is important. Hard to do with our time constraints...but important. Letting your kids see you smile and hear you laugh is good stuff! Hurleyj","dateCreated":"1432671026","smartDate":"May 26, 2015","userCreated":{"username":"Lps-sysop","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/Lps-sysop","imageUrl":"https:\/\/ssl.wikicdn.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"82274614","body":"When I taught in the classroom, the children were able to earn tickets for positive behavior. One of their favorite rewards to choose from was "lunch with the teacher." I would only take 3 students at a time, so I could really get to know each child.
\n I always began each school year by taking every student in my class (one at a time) to lunch with me. This was an effective way to get to know each child on a personal level from the very beginning. I think the children really felt "special."
\n SummersS","dateCreated":"1432671040","smartDate":"May 26, 2015","userCreated":{"username":"Lps-sysop","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/Lps-sysop","imageUrl":"https:\/\/ssl.wikicdn.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"82277182","body":"I feel that if we dont take the time to build a bond and get to know our students then we arent teaching the entire student. We need them to know they are listened too and heard and not just talked at. I love getting to know what my students like and what they are interested in and dont like. Those bonds are cherrished. JWoods","dateCreated":"1432679508","smartDate":"May 26, 2015","userCreated":{"username":"jwoods1616","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/jwoods1616","imageUrl":"https:\/\/ssl.wikicdn.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"82280072","body":"Building relationships is one of the most important critical parts of my job as a teacher. If they don\u2019t know I care they won\u2019t want to know what I have to teach. To build these bridges I try to get to know who my students are, what is going on with them, and what do they like. I then use these things to help motivate them to work. I use humor as much as possible during the day. Students want to have fun, so a joke or dance break can help us all to feel comfortable and find a way to work together. I also find that giving the student choices helps them to feel powerful and trusted. I have also seen that trust is slow to build and easy to lose. The most difficult times with a student are most often after the relationship has had a bump in the road and needs to rebuild.","dateCreated":"1432688611","smartDate":"May 26, 2015","userCreated":{"username":"lantzyc","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/lantzyc","imageUrl":"https:\/\/ssl.wikicdn.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"82281688","body":"I agree with April that this is one of the most overlooked aspects of education, yet it really is one of the most important. I have always valued and taken the time to build that sense of community\/family in my classroom. Giving your full attention to children on topics that mean the most to them allows them to know you really care and helps to build meaningful relationships. In the educational times we live in now, it is hard to find the time to let the students share things that are important to them, but it is very beneficial. A child will work harder for you if they have formed a relationship with you. H. Paprzycki","dateCreated":"1432693419","smartDate":"May 26, 2015","userCreated":{"username":"paprzyckih","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/paprzyckih","imageUrl":"https:\/\/ssl.wikicdn.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"82288258","body":"Building relationships and helping students feel wanted and valued creates a powerful learning environment. From a simple hello smile at morning greeting, to an afternoon high five or knuckle-bump goodbye, there are numerous opportunities to let a student know they are important and you care about them. Even disciplining a student can be a constructive learning by finding a positive in the midst of the negative, CaroneD","dateCreated":"1432722590","smartDate":"May 27, 2015","userCreated":{"username":"CaroneD","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/CaroneD","imageUrl":"https:\/\/ssl.wikicdn.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"82290512","body":"I recently attended the graduation party of a former student that I had looped with for two years. I look at my facebook account and I have numerous formers (fully grown) students whom I communicate with on a regular basis. All of this is due to the relationships we created in 3,4 and 5th grade. I have always told my students the first week of school, we are a family for the next year. We love and treat eachother with respect.","dateCreated":"1432732157","smartDate":"May 27, 2015","userCreated":{"username":"mommypoz","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/mommypoz","imageUrl":"https:\/\/ssl.wikicdn.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"82291132","body":"Plain and simple, I straight up tell my students that I love and care about them and want to help them in any way that I can. I tell them it is important to me that they are happy and feel comfortable not only at school but everywhere. My first job is to make sure that they are safe and taken care of. If their needs are being met I know they will be open to learning and growing.","dateCreated":"1432733471","smartDate":"May 27, 2015","userCreated":{"username":"dusekm","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/dusekm","imageUrl":"https:\/\/ssl.wikicdn.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}}],"more":45}]}],"more":false},"comments":[]},"http":{"code":200,"status":"OK"},"redirectUrl":null,"javascript":null,"notices":{"warning":[],"error":[],"info":[],"success":[]}}